At The Nonhuman Turn, Erin Manning has fired a shot across our bows, us OOOers I mean.
The mishearing is provocative. I'm not sure if I'm going to intervene yet. But it seems to me that what happens is that, hamstrung by the metaphysics of presence, process philosophy thinks OOO posits relations as somehow outside of things. Things are really present, and processes are really present, so relations must be outside things for OOO, which means that it's evil.
In sum, processes are present in a better way than present objects.
The difference is that OOO is not a metaphysics of presence. For us, process philosophy just is reductionism.